I won’t force anyone to make time for me.
This is a boundary I learned through experience, through moments of waiting, hoping, and trying to understand silences that were never meant to be explained. Real love, real friendship, and genuine connection do not have to be chased. They do not ask you to beg for attention or shrink yourself just to be noticed. When something is real, it flows naturally, with ease and consistency.
I have learned what it feels like to give more than what is returned. To show up fully for people who only showed up when it was convenient for them. To make excuses for their absence, to justify their lack of effort, and to convince myself that patience would somehow turn into priority. It hurts to reach the moment where you finally see the truth, that you cared more than they did. That realization can be heavy, but it is also honest.
And in that honesty, there is freedom.
Freedom comes when you stop forcing connections that resist you. When you stop measuring your worth by how hard someone tries to keep you around. When you accept that not everyone who enters your life is meant to stay, and that leaving does not always mean failure. Sometimes it means growth. Sometimes it means self respect.
From now on, I choose to meet people where they meet me. I give energy where energy is returned. I offer presence to those who are present. I love without overextending myself or abandoning my own needs in the process. I no longer chase what does not choose me.
This is not bitterness. This is clarity. This is choosing peace over confusion and alignment over attachment. This is knowing that I am enough, even when someone fails to show up.
If this resonates with you, take a moment to reflect on the connections in your life. Share this with someone who might need to hear it today, or leave a comment to affirm that you are choosing yourself and your peace.